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In Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage, Jim Newheiser combines pastoral care and theological precision to provide a comprehensive resource for those searching for answers to difficult questions. He addresses 40 questions (I’m surprised this book was not published with Kregel’s 40 Questions Series) equally divided between marriage and divorce/remarriage. The format of the book allows readers to read the entire book in chronological order or simply read particular chapters to find answers to immediate questions.

As one might assume, the content in the section of marriage is not controversial—at least among conservative Christians. The section on divorce/remarriage, on the other hand, is not without controversy. Regardless of the position you take on divorce/remarriage, this book will prove helpful both pastorally and theologically.

Comparing Newheiser’s work with all others on this topic, even by conservative authors, would be impossible. The plethora of views, not to mention the sheer volume of writing on the topic, is overwhelming. Nevertheless, this book stands out from others in its category by combining the topics of marriage and divorce/remarriage. This combined treatment of the topic not only gives a more substantial look at the topics but also allows Newheiser’s comments on divorce and remarriage to be thoroughly prefaced by his views on marriage. At times, both his questions and answers about divorce/remarriage could be misconstrued to communicate that he leans away from preserving marriage. However, taking what he writes in the first half of the book about marriage into account clarifies his position and protects against this misunderstanding.

• For the Christian, marriage is not merely about seeking self-fulfillment and personal happiness; rather, it is an opportunity to glorify God as we continue the work he entrusted to mankind at creation. We fulfill this creation mandate as we have children and build our families under Christ’s lordship (13).

• The best thing you can do for your marriage is to grow closer to Jesus. The more you understand and appreciate God’s love for you in Christ, the better your marriage will be as you reflect that love to your spouse. A strong marriage in which both partners are showing Christlike love to each other will help both of them to better appreciate God’s gracious love (80).

• Because no one knows you better than your spouse does, no one is better suited to correct your faults. In a strong marriage, each partner is willing to bring loving correction when necessary, assuming that the other wants to be godly and will welcome help. A husband who gently removes the splinters from his wife’s eye is fulfilling his call to make her more holy and blameless (Eph. 5:26–27). A wife who respectfully points out sins that her husband may be unaware of is the best kind of helper—doing him good (Gen. 2:18; Prov. 31:12) (130).

• Those considering divorce need to realize that their decision is not merely between them and their spouse. God himself was involved as a party to their marriage when it began, and he is the defender of every marriage as well. You cannot willfully defy him and come out ahead in the long run. On the other hand, if you turn to him, he will help you to keep your covenant promises and to rebuild what seems to be hopelessly broken (185).

• The New Testament provisions for divorce, in the case of unrepentant spousal adultery (Matt 19:9) or abandonment by an unbelieving spouse (1 Cor. 7:15), protect the innocent party as well. If, as I will argue . . . the person is free to remarry, he or she can be blessed by the opportunity to enter into a new marriage with a faithful believing spouse (191).

• The fact that Paul prohibits marriage after an improper divorce corresponds to Jesus’ statements in Matthew 19:9 (and elsewhere) that it is adulterous to remarry after an unlawful divorce. Ordinarily, a Christian couple that is separated or divorced should make every effort to pursue reconciliation through the principals and power of the gospel (219).

These questions are not easy to answer, but Newheiser models a pastoral response to each one of them. Of course, you may discover occasional weaknesses or overstatements and some of the questions may seem a bit contrived. On the whole, though, there is great depth to this book and great help in his writing. I recommend Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriageas both a personal reference and a pastoral help.