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Family Dispute Resolution in Australia has evolved and been transformed by the Family Law Act 1975 and its subsequent amendments. Recently, over 2000 registered FDR (Family Dispute Resolution) practitioners have decided whether to upgrade their qualifications to post graduate equivalent or to remove FDR from their practice portfolio. To date, approximately 1200 have completed the registration requirements. To do so practitioners have necessarily been reflecting on all aspects of their practice. The publication of the second edition of ‘Mediating with Families’, written by Linda Fisher and Mieke Brandon, when for the first time in Australia FDRPs have been obliged to explicitly examine their knowledge and practice, is timely indeed. MwF is a book which provides renewed breadth and depth of insight and clinical practice for the FDR profession. gas jet size chart Other professionals whose clients are affected by separation and family conflict will also find much to stimulate, challenge and inform them in ‘MwF’.

In the preface the authors liken this second edition to a home renovation of their first. The contents pages indicate just one aspect of what is in store. Readers have more to look forward to. Subtle accretion of mediator meta functions develop the ambience and are implicit throughout. Various reader-author conversations suggest themselves. Resources abound.

The contents pages indicate an open plan style book structured to culminate in two constructs: the culture and the language of families. Following three initial scene-setting chapters, which analyze family dynamics, describe approaches to mediation, then emphasize the influence of the mediator, there are three chapters describing and exploring FDR.

The next two chapters extend the principles and philosophy of FDR beyond the concerns of separating couples to issues which can arise among extended family members. Having developed, applied and honed the knowledge, skills and aptitudes relevant to FDR, the authors refine and adapt them to these family circumstances. Practitioners who have and/or would like to broaden the scope of their practice beyond FDR, will find Chapters 6 to 8 of MwF describe family situations in which family mediation theory and practice is effectively applied: inter family issues, adoption, parent-adolescent disputes. Those who question whether such transferability is possible or appropriate may find it salutary to recall that ‘the mediator manages the process; the parties manage the content’.

The first two of the final four chapters, Chapters 9 and 10, make overt the implicit messages of the first eight: namely the essential elements of and variations on, the process of mediation and the responsibilities of family mediators. As I read it, the breadth and depth of Chapters 1 – 8 assumes that the reader is beyond the apprenticeship stage of practice. I recommend newly qualified practitioners consider starting with Chapters 9 and 10 entitled ‘Practice Considerations’. Here they will learn sufficient of the scaffolding of mediation practice by way of endorsements (for example of co-mediation p. 232), explanations (for example of power p. 217) and exhortations (for example referring parties p.226) to inspire some of the momentum and confidence necessary to commence professional practice.

The final two chapters provide an analysis of the significance of language and culture. The crux of each is presented as being rigorous cultivation and demonstration of respect for mediation participants’ uniqueness. Reaching these chapters, which simultaneously provide the foundation and the apex of this second edition renovation, can be likened to the satisfaction of coming home. i gas shares The preceding ten chapters of exposition and exploration of substance and meta themes through conversations with the authors reaches a natural resolution.

“I hear and I forget; I see and I remember; I do and I understand.” is reputedly a Chinese proverb, challenging all educators to deliver beyond ‘talking the talk’. Throughout ‘M w F’ Fisher and Brandon offer the reader a variety of opportunities to consolidate their understanding of mediating with families through doing. Exercises and diagrams which transform the words of the text from information through understanding to reflective practice cater well for the reader-educator, whether educating oneself and/or others. For example, genograms pp. 57 – 59 and pp. 316 – 317 convey an appreciation of the complexity of families in the way that pictures paint a thousand words.

The first meta function that surfaced together with its corollary is that the mediator can significantly influence the health of family relationships, and that family relationships are a sound predictor of personal well-being. Cummins [1] identified eight variables in the personal well-being index. ‘Relationships’ is one of them. Like the authors of ‘Mediating with Families’, Cummins conceptualises families in systems theory, commenting all homeostatic systems have a limited capacity to absorb challenge and when aversive experiences are both strong and sustained, homeostasis fails. If this occurs, people lose their normal positive view of themselves and become depressed. Qu and Weston [2] of AIFS concur:

Our sense of wellbeing is closely linked with how happy we are with our relationships with other people, especially those that are most important to us. Of these, relationships within families loom large, affecting all members, the family as a whole, and the community. If relationships in the family are supportive and enjoyable, then the challenges we face both within and outside the family can seem less daunting than otherwise. gas efficient cars 2010 The souring of family relationships, on the other hand, can be a devastating experience in which our “refuge” can become a “minefield”.

Fisher and Brandon synthesize research regarding a variety of aspects of well-being in Chapter 4 which in analyzing the shift from a loss of a positive view of self through to well being “focuses on the development and breakdown of relationships, with particular emphasis on issues affecting couples who separate”. It outlines “how mediators can assist couples to find ways to manage their emotional journey and resolve their separation conflict through mediation.”

The second strand to pique and sustain my interest was the authors’ respect for those who seek the help of the profession. up electricity bill payment online Careful choices of language including subheadings, for example, in Chapter 7, Challenges in the family (p. 144) set and maintain the respectful tone, which extends to conveying the importance of parties’ dignity in the frequent case studies.

If ‘help seekers’ include mediators among those to whom they go first for information, it is all the more important that respect for the dignity of clientele and excellence of practice are values commonly held and explicitly practiced. In both what they say and how they say it, Fisher and Brandon continue to make a significant contribution to identifying these as fundamental to the role of the mediator and in enhancing practitioners’ skills. Paragraphs built around sentences such as on p. 170 “Family members usually wish to be respected, valued and wanted, and members of blended families are no different.” are prevalent.

As I read it, M w F provides the opportunity, through the breadth of its structure and the depth of its substance, for family mediators to reflect on the potential of the infinite combinations of their knowledge, skills and values to interact with the individuality of parties in ways which maximize the well being of vulnerable participants. The authors convey, and in return expect, compassion of family mediators and in doing so raise the bar well beyond the mechanics of mediation practice in such a way that they develop the professional together with the pragmatic aspects of family mediation.

As I read I ‘listened’ to the tone of these chapters. Well before I reached page 274 on which there is a list adjectives that describe the tone of ‘mediatorspeak’, my list describing the tone of MwF included ‘compassionate’, ‘experienced’, ‘accepting’, ‘caring’, ‘interested’, ‘tentative’, ‘empathetic’, ‘sensitive’, ‘convincing’. These are among the qualities of the tone that contribute to the depth of this book.

These two veteran mediators write with confidence in a way that invites a conversation, ‘biblio-supervision’, with reader-practitioners. As would be expected, readers’ perceptions, understandings and hypotheses will differ from those of the authors’ providing the reader the opportunity to challenge, explore and clarify their perceptions and points of view, prompting reflection and growth. For example, I paused for thought when reading the section on intake and suitability for mediation (p. 198) “Two important elements of intake are to assess the safety of the parties should they come to mediation, and whether they have the necessary negotiation skills and motivation.” It occurred to me that I see it just a little differently and might have written “Two important elements of intake are to assess how to maximize the safety of the parties if they come to mediation, and how to design the process to maximize the likelihood of parties being able to be assertive with assistance.” These may seem small and insignificant changes to some. What is significant is that the degree of detail in MwF offers myriads of opportunities to become aware of and to develop insight into one’s family mediation practice and its underpinning rationale.

Some texts imply that theirs is the last word on the topic. Fisher and Brandon have written a text that understates its place in the world of mediating with families and is likely to be all the more accessible and therefore influential for it. gas works park fireworks As well as the scope and detail of the book, the Additional Resources at the end of each chapter convey to the reader a reminder that there is much more to consider and much more that has been considered. To have identified and included the Classics in these sections acknowledges and affirms the foundations on MwF and many contemporary texts are built. Footnotes provide another source for those wanting to excavate the archives.

In the 3 rd edition I will look forward to an even more consistent selection of language for mediators to emulate. Having set the language bar high, and while it would be a mistake to think of words only in their literal sense, the choice of language sometimes disappoints. For example, I prefer to think of family structures ‘changing’ rather than ‘breaking down’ as on p. 5 and p. 9. On p. 20 I found it jarring to read ‘the mediator reality tested… for them’. I think of participants accomplishing the reality testing, assisted by the mediator. On p. 27 I found ‘not completely neutral’ to be a red herring which could set a reader new to mediation back a decade. Continuing, for a moment, with other expressions which disturbed my flow, p. 13 could be read as implying that ‘good faith’ and ‘genuine effort’ are interchangeable. On page 156, I’d like to have read that a mediator’s role is to be evenhanded rather than that ‘the mediator is not on their side nor that of their child’. In a book in which generally the choice of language is inclusive, interest based, peer oriented, I found periodic misdemeanors all the more glaring.

Any cracks in the plaster regarding use of language are more than redeemed by the transformative title ‘Mediating with Families’. ‘with’ is the perfect preposition for mediation, accentuating as it does, the philosophy of parties’ self determination and mediator’s dispassionate involvement. The same book, entitled inappropriately ‘Mediating for Families’, or exchanging the audacious ‘for’ for the insipid: ‘in’, ‘about’, ‘between’ or even ‘regarding’ could have been justifiably judged by its cover.

My other concern is that in this ‘renovation’ as the authors describe it [p. xvii] would have been all the stronger for a firm foundation and a house plan showing the relationship among the ‘rooms’. An opportunity exists here. Although sections often commence with ‘as mentioned previously’ each of the sections of each of the chapters is self contained. Just as mediation is not alone in being described as ‘a practice in search of a theory’, MwF is not alone among the mediation literature as ‘a book in search of a blueprint’. Sound and explicit theory engenders and liberates practitioner creativity in a way that is experienced as congruent, providing security for participants. Lack of theory creates dependence on the ideas of others and eclecticism both of which can fragment participants’ experience. Mediation theory is not easy to come by. I look forward to a third edition of MwF which retains the excellence of the second edition and incorporates an explicit rationale, a readily available reference point, providing simultaneous stability and freedom to enable me to wonder, to develop hunches, to wrestle with the relationship among concepts, to hypothesise, to test hypotheses; to extend what I read beyond the examples presented, to enrich, challenge and make me confront my subliminal theorizing, otherwise known as assumption-making.

In the meanwhile, with MwF at their side, FDR practitioners and family mediators can continue to incorporate the wisdom, experience and generosity of Meike Brandon and Linda Fisher into their practice and learning. gas x coupon 2015 It is the families of Australasia who will benefit from their dedication, leadership and insights. If I were writing the blurb for Thomson Reuters I’d have submitted “M w F, written by two highly regarded, contemporary, versatile practitioners will be welcomed by the competent and diverse group of professional family mediators who, with this book in their library, can continue to aspire to delivering best practice in ways which support an progressively more informed 21 st century mediation clientele.”